The question sounds like it should have a simple answer but, in all honesty, it doesn’t. There are plenty of things to consider when it comes to if, when and how to register for engagement/wedding gifts.
A registry is a list of items you would like to receive from well-wishers who are eager to celebrate your engagement and wedding. You can compile the list and share access soon after you announce you are getting married — or you can wait to spread the word when you send out wedding invitations. Totally up to you!
The whole idea of a registry is two-fold:
You have a better chance of getting gifts you want and need — as opposed to random crystal bowls or vases that are not your taste.
Registries make it much easier on your guests to select gifts for you. No one wants to give a gift that is destined to be “regifted!”
There was a time, of course, when brides-to-be and their fiances would visit stores and walk around with a clipboard making physical lists of desired items. While site visits might still be great for up-close inspection of items like towels and dish patterns, most other items can be selected online and added to a virtual list.
Some things to consider:
1. Have you been living as a couple for a while and/or do you have homes full of “stuff?
If you answered “yes,” it’s likely that you already have multiples of what you need! That being said, it may be time for fresh silverware, appliances or linens! You can always use more pretty things, right?
2. Think price range! Make sure to include items of varying prices on your registry. Not everyone can afford the $400 vacuum but they want to spend more than 10 bucks for a towel!
If you don’t need more stuff, you may want to consider a very focused registry to help you get closer to a specific goal? You can register at a liquor store to stock an in-home bar. Or, you can ask friends and family to contribute toward your honeymoon (talk to a travel agent about setting up the fund). Or consider Honeyfund for that very purpose!
3. Ask for cash! Sure, it may seem awkward but more and more couples are doing just that. Use a cash registry such as Zola or Tendr.
Couple of things to remember:
- Don’t ask for cash on the invitation… instead, spread the word about your “cash” registry through closer friends and family.
- You may want to tell people how you’ll use the cash. Perhaps you are looking to fix up your home or buy a new car.
Regardless of what you choose, make sure to register for what you want! That’s the whole point. Don’t choose things you think are “appropriate” gifts… choose items you are going to love!
And, remember, some people will follow your lead with registries and others are going to just get whatever they want anyway. If you’re lucky and you get something that you don’t like, hopefully, it will come with a gift receipt!